I often find myself getting irritable with other people’s behaviour. This happens almost automatically in traffic, particularly on busy mornings. I don't see myself as a road-rager, but I can get very impatient with unintelligent drivers. The same happens in meetings where a single stubborn person could drag out discussions, standing in the way of crisp and often easy decisions. Any person wasting anybody’s time turns my dial to IRRITABLE.
There is a cure for this, I recently read. Wake up in the mornings and ask yourself: Who can I love today? Think of a friend, a family member or someone you saw on the street the day before. Intentionally decide to send this person your kind and loving thoughts today. I tried this therapy a few days ago. To my amazement, it had an immediate effect. During my early morning routine, my thoughts were so absorbed with identifying people in need of love that I had no time to become irritable. Not even when a taxi driver cut in front of me without any sign or signal.
I remembered a friend whose husband died a year ago from my immediate circle. She needs a follow-up call to know that she is not alone. I decided to phone her immediately – before I forgot. My Bluetooth connection made phoning easy. At the traffic light that was mostly out of order, I greeted the friendly vendor and wished him a happy day. Wherever I stood in a shop or bank queue, I looked around and picked someone with a troubled expression. In my mind, I said a prayer of love for this person, and when I caught their eyes, I passed on a smile.
What amazed me most was this exercise’s effect on my own energy levels.
Loving people left me with no time to judge them. Love is really a magic tool, I discovered…